Wednesday, November 18, 2020

Parashat Toldot - It’s Never about One Person, Ever!

רפואה מן התורה
Healing from the Torah


Parashat Toldot 
Genesis 25:19-28:9
By Rabbi Adam Ruditsky
 

     I want to write on the “two regimes” that are in Rivka’s womb in this parsha, her two sons that will be born within seconds of each other, two children who will represent two communities of people, two communities who must live in the world together while they embrace differing views of life.  How can I not write about this given what we are experiencing here in America right now?  Governmental change aside, we will continue down the path of predominantly two groups who have what appears to be two opposing ideologies regarding how American life should be lived and therefore conducted.  In fact, this past weekend I was in Palm Springs, CA and experienced what they call a “Trump Train” caravanning through the main streets.  This is a repeat of 2016, although with different voices, when right after the election protests began that blocked freeways and city streets.  Eventually we have to stop living life in opposition to our neighbors and friends and figure out how to coexist.  Looking at the parsha here, while there is not a direct answer to our dilemma, there is a clue to its solution.  Still, like the story below, we need to seek out its meaning.
     
This week in Parashat Toldot we find another story that seems to take a backseat to the birth and early family life of Esau and Jacob, Isaac and Rivka’s two children.  This additional and important story is about Isaac, who like his father Abraham before him, argues over land rights with those who also live in the land with him.  Here Isaac and his herdsmen dig three wells, the first two being a source of contention with the herdsmen of Gerar, who claimed that the water underneath the ground, was theirs (cf. Genesis 26:20).  However, at the digging of the third well it says, וְלֹא רָבוּ, עָלֶיהָ, “they did not quarrel over the well.”  Why?  It then goes on to say in Genesis 26:22 that “Isaac removed himself from there” which seems to have solved the problem. Question: did he “remove” himself from disputed lands or from being an personal impediment for peace?
     Our Rabbinic tradition does not speak into that as much as I would like to see it, but there are differing interpretations regarding the wells. The Ramban teaches that the first two wells refer to the first two destroyed temples and the third well is the messianic temple, a time when its expanse will have far reaching consequences for all people.  The initial response to the wells and Isaac’s desire to build a third one according to Rabbi Samson Raphael Hirsch has to do with the fact that Isaac recognized the negativity of his own privilege (cf. Gen. 22:14).  Rabbi Joseph Soloveitchik teaches that the Philistines were “filling in the wells” because they assumed that Abraham’s legacy died when he did, only to contend with Isaac, who was carrying on his father’s work and built his own well to stop the chaos.  Rabbi Philip Berg taught that by digging the wells Isaac was attempting to “restore the water that was present before the sin of Adam and the flood,” something that was being thwarted by the Philistines until he dug a third well under the protection of God who caused King Abimelech to make peace with Isaac.
     Honoring the words of Rabbi Jonathan Sacks, of blessed memory, I prefer the view that he brings to this Isaac story.  In describing Isaac, R’Sacks distinguishes him from “the drama of Abraham and the struggles of Jacob” by having a “faith of perseverance” that acted as a “link in the chain of tradition of generations.”  Before digging the third well Isaac redug what his father had dug before, which for R’Sacks represented carrying on the family name, hence the “chain of tradition.”  But it was more than that for R’Sacks, it was an act that saw Isaac “achieve the most elusive of goals, namely peace.”  The idea of engaging in an argument for Judaism is called a machalochet, not just any type of argument, but an argument for the sake of heaven, or purpose.  But there is another type of argument, one that R’Sacks would say is an argument for “victory” as opposed to “truth,” which is what a machalochet is.  The prime example of this comes from Perkei Avot 5:17 where the argument between Hillel and Shammai is for truth and the argument between Korach and Moses is for victory.
     Regarding an argument, we saw this a few weeks ago back in Lech Lecha when Abraham and Lot engaged in their own quarrel, but there is
a difference.  Abraham did the right thing, he allowed Lot to have what he desired for the sake of a victory of peace only, which is another type of argument to resolve conflict because mutual agreement is just not on the table.  When Isaac and the herdsmen of Gerar argued, in the end it resulted in peace, just not for the sake of peace but for everyone’s success.  The name of Isaac’s third well is called Rechovot, which means “wide expanse,” because “For now the LORD has made room for us, and we shall be fruitful in the land.”  Abraham let Lot go to Sodom because that seemed to be the only way to have victory over their quarreling.  For Isaac he saw that the “wide expanse” of the land contained an answer that all could dwell together peacefully and in safety.  In the end R’Sacks concludes that “being defeated by the truth is the only defeat that is also a victory.”  In this parsha the goal between Isaac and the herdsmen of Gerar was to have peace with one another.
     Looking back at Perkei Avot 5:17 the question is asked, why did the Halakha (Jewish law) go in the favor of Hillel and not Shammai?  The answer: the School of Hillel took the view of the School of Shammai into consideration before rendering a decision whereas the School of Shammai did not consider the School of Hillel in theirs.  Jonathan Haidt concluded that fairness is not just morality, but moral equivalency is based on looking beyond a sense of rightness and entitlement for the greater good, or “reciprocal altruism.”  In connection with our parsha, without compromising values, Isaac realized that if stood on a moral platform of rightness and entitlement he could not achieve a goal of peace with the people who he shared the land of Gerar with.
     So our question, did Isaac remove himself from the disputed lands over water rights or from being an impediment to peace?  I think it was both. But this is not about viewing Isaac as some type of messiah figure more so than it reflects a man who seeks to carry on that chain of tradition, traditions such as הַכְנָסַת או֫רחִים  (hach’nasat ohrchim), "showing hospitality,” or צְדָקָה
(tzedakah), “righteousness.”  It is important to remember that tzedakah is much more than charity, it is the obligation to social fairness for others around us.  Isaac is a picture of menschlichkeit, he showed hospitality and fairness to others whom he shared the land with, which is why what we read points to a solution.  Yet Isaac having menschlichkeit underscores all Jewish values in general.  We are best to understand menschlichkeit as the basic ethics of altruism derived from the human condition, symbolizing love and compassion towards each other, also to include fairness found in justice, as we deal with both friend and foe.  Truth - our nation waits with hope for January 20, 2021.  Fact - this is not just about one man, but all of us.  

Shabbat Shalom

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