Wednesday, November 4, 2020

Parashat Vayeria - You've Got a Friend

רפואה מן התורה
Healing from the Torah


Parashat Vayeria 
Genesis 12:1-17:27
By Rabbi Adam Ruditsky  

     In Genesis 18:2, Rashi discusses why the word וַיַּרְא (vay’yar), to see, is used twice.  Rashi comments that the first time, it is as it says, Abraham opened his eyes and simply saw three men/angels standing before him.  However the second time he just did not see, but in a deeper way he perceived, Abraham standing up and running toward the three to invite them into his home for a meal.  In the words of Nachum Sarna, “Abraham does not wait for them to approach but takes the initiative in offering hospitality,” even while Abraham was recovering from his circumcision.  This story is the foundation of two mitzvot being בִּקּוּר חוֹלים (bikkur cholim), "visiting the sick," and וְהַכְנָסַת או֫רחִים (v’hach’nasat ohrchim), "showing hospitality."  But there is another, וַהֲבָאַת שָׁלוֹם בֵּין אָדָם לַחֲבֵרוֹ , (v’hava’at shalom, bayn adam la’cha’vayro), be “a lover of peace between a person and their companion, something that Abraham surely valued.  As Abraham played peace-maker maker with Lot he most likely vacillated between anger and disappointment with his nephew, but given the need to make peace he looked beyond the face value of their interchange and sought to understand Lot on a deeper level as opposed to dismissing him outright.  This week Abraham does the same under more trying circumstances.   
     What might have Abraham perceived on a deeper level?  On a deeper level Abraham did not operate under a sense of obligation.  In fact, when we read in Isaiah 41:8, “But you, Israel, My servant, Jacob whom I have chosen, the seed of Abraham, My friend,”  it allows for the following question: “Is Noah being called a righteous man (cf. Gen. 6:9), and Abraham being called a friend of God, significant?”  For Rashi, Noah being righteous is about his deeds, whereas for Abraham, being a friend was not about doing out of the compulsion but simply because of who he is.  This reflects the words of Pirkei Avot 1:6 that says, עֲשֵׂה לְךָ רַב, וּקְנֵה לְךָ חָבֵר (asayh l’cha rav, ooknay l’cha chavayr), “appoint for yourself a teacher, and acquire for yourself a friend.”   Maimonides on this Pirkei Avot verse says that a friend helps to “
correct one’s actions in all areas of life,” which is why for me, Abraham as a friend of God has more value than just being righteous alone like Noah.  A real friend will be a righteous person as opposed to a (self) righteous person who will not necessarily be a friend.   
     If God and Abraham were friends, then why here in Vayeria does God apparently conceal from Abraham the planned destruction of Sodom and Gomorrah?  It says in Genesis 18:17-18, “And the LORD said: ‘Shall I hide from Abraham that which I am doing; seeing that Abraham shall surely become a great and mighty nation, and all the nations of the earth shall be blessed in him?’”  Rashi reflecting on these verses says they speak to Abraham’s inward conflict about the days of Noah and the devastation of the flood, Abraham thinking, can God so this again?  At first glance it does appear that God and Abraham have differing views pertaining to the justice of life and how to act upon it.  Taking a step backwards for just a moment, although our tradition says the opposite, I am not so sure Abraham would have assumed that his nephew Lot desired Sodom and Gomorrah for any other reason than its physical beauty (see Gen. 13:10), only upon his arrival did things clearly change.  Still, Lot grew up in Abraham’s home, Lot trusted Abraham enough to go with him to a land he did not know, and in truth Abraham surely felt a responsibility toward his nephew and therefore assumed that God did (or should) as well.       

    
Abraham’s feelings about what God is doing comes out in his rhetorical question where he says, הֲשֹׁפֵט כָּל-הָאָרֶץ לֹא יַעֲשֶׂה מִשְׁפָּט, “shall not the Judge of all the earth do justly?”  The condition of Sodom and Gomorrah is laid out in the Midrash, PirkeiDeRabbi Eliezer, saying “they appointed over themselves judges who were lying judges, and they oppressed every wayfarer and stranger who entered Sodom by their perverse judgment, and they sent them forth naked, as it is said, “They have oppressed the stranger without judgment” (Ezek. 22:29).”  Abraham presumed there was a need to remind God that justice was equal to the wicked and the good alike, but why?  Did Abraham not trust that God would do the world right in this area?  We learn in another Midrash (Genesis Rabbah 49:1) that not blessing the righteous or cursing the wicked are both transgressions.  In other words, tradition teaches that God’s justice included just not the right, but the obligation to destroy Sodom and Gomorrah, so why should Abraham be told if he knew that justice will be distributed upon the earth?  Perhaps it is according to what Rabbi Yehuda taught; Abraham was God’s partner in the repair of the world, tikkun (cf. Genesis Rabbah 49:2), and therefore ethically should have been told, after all, partners don’t keep important stuff like this from each other.
     For Abraham’s part, he knew it would be sacrilege for God to judge the wicked and righteous the same (see Rashi on Gen. 18:25).  As such, when Abraham becomes aware of God’s intent to destroy these two cities he is not so much appalled, more so than he is angry, even though he knew that Sodom and Gomorrah were the pits of society and evil to the core (see Genesis 19).  Abraham did not let the wickedness of Sodom and Gomorrah alter his view of life and death or right are wrong.  In this case he approaches God, with great purpose, and says, “Will you indeed sweep away (תִּסְפֶּה, tispheh) the righteous with the wicked,” a question that should be read as an indignant sense of justice.  In Onkelos (Aramaic version of the Torah), the word for “sweep away” (הֲבִרְגַז, havirgaz) means a “quarrel while not being on speaking terms.”  God was angry at all the inhabitants of Sodom and Gomorrah   the good and bad alike - and had no more to say.  Even though God held Abraham accountable for these wicked cities, Abraham in effect held God accountable by saying, “if I worked it out with Lot, why can’t you.”
     Rabbi David Fohrman teaches on Abraham’s use of the word הִנֶּנִּי (hineni), “behold,” a word he used both with God (cf.Gen. 22:1) and his son Isaac (cf. Gen. 22:7).  R’Fohrman suggests that is because Abraham saw himself as a partner with his higher values of the divine as well as a partner with humanity.  The good of God is not just hocus-pocus, but is realized in connection with bayn adam l’chavayro, between one person and another, being a “a lover of peace between a person and their companion.”  Abraham entered into negotiations with God to save the righteous people of Sodom and Gomorrah although he knew that he could not save those who chose evil and hate.  Abraham looked beyond what he saw, a wicked city that did heinous things, and saw the deeper meaning as a friend who advocates for the voices of others.
     In Pirkei Avot 4:13 it says the greatest crown in life is “a good name,” but a good name is much more than just standing on righteous principals.  Abraham did not wait for God so to speak, but acted in good faith for the sake of others because it was the right to be, albeit not easy.  I may have mentioned it already, but here in Los Angeles on select billboards and bus stops, a simple advertisement underscores these trying times that says וְאָהַבְתָּ לְרֵעֲךָ כָּמוֹךָ
(V’ahavta l’ray’ahcha ca’mocha), “and you shall love/value/esteem your neighbor as yourself.”  It is that person, even with others who see life differently, who is the one that wears the crown of a good name.  

Shabbat Shalom!   

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